Relationships
Every once in a while I will address this issue, because I guess it’s a real one and God made man who way, if not friends, family and churches would not have been necessary anyway. But this time, I think I’m writing it having felt a big hit on my back. So much so I think my life will never be the same again.
Relationships though beautiful has proven destructive in many ways, something that is close to my heart and I treasure the most seem to be the one that suffers all the time. Our love Relationship with Jesus – why does it seem to always be the first one to suffer? Is it because we can’t see, feel and touch God or is it because we just take Him totally for granted? I don’t think leaders in church kill and persecute people when they choose to make STUPID decisions by dating unbelievers nor do we scare the soul out of you, because honestly since you lack so much love to the extend you need love from another mortal how then will we scare the living being out of you anymore?
I never could understand the word divorce nor could I understand why people choose to divorce, but I can assure you the past few years of my life I have seen more teens with parents who has divorce than all my 21 years added together.. its scary! This teens comes with different types of needs, some without a daddy figure in their life, some never experiencing their mum’s touch, and I blame it all on their parents. If you were not ready to take up your responsibility to coach, love and provide for your kids you have no rights to have SEX at all, don’t even talk about family planning. By nature dogs and cats and frogs care for their offspring’s until a certain age and by HUMAN LAW you are supposed to jaga your kids until they are 21 and yet you choose to neglect, divorce and not provide for your kids? Tell me about being low life? ( Well if you are a parent feel my strong words, if you are single why don’t you make relationship decisions which will determine how your kids will look at you)
I know of someone very close to me who has been in and out of relationships from the age of 12, she got out of it and then move on to another guy by the time she was form 1, then moved on to date again in form 3 and then moving on to another guy in form 3 and 4 and then form 5 and then now dating a joker… all in all, to be honest her last count is about 13 guys =) some guys stood up when they were challenge but eventually backed off, some ran to the padang but was later found, some was personally beaten up, as I look back and forth I can’t really find the words to describe how cheap skate and low will a person chose to live his or her life in this aspect of it. How do you face your kids in future when you see that uncle across that room and you tell them oh mummy kissed this uncle before when I was 13, how do you explain those pictures in Facebook when you were hugging by the beach to your kids when they ask out of shock and sadness? How do you? How do you? And how do you explain yourself for the things you have done to have cheated on your kid’s father, by not having preserved and giving your best to their father?
I think the very least we must and should have in our lives, is to choose to live by choice and by principles, not by our feelings or emotions which tells us that this man even though unsaved will come to know Jesus one day. Let’s stop lying to ourselves and lets stop abusing the “faith” word by saying, why cant you have the faith to know that God will soften his heart one day? I mean come on, let’s be real, why can’t you then trust that God has someone already for you? Why can’t you therefore believe that Jesus is your answer to your loneliness? Why can’t you choose to make a stand for your faith and resist the work of the enemy? Everyone in Malaysia knows and respect the fact that if you want to marry a muslim you need to convert into islam. But what about us? How have we carried our faith, if your walk with Christ so cheap that you will settle for anything less than the best? Is your walk with God so lowly that you will choose to stop coming to church, avoid every single one who once cared and loved you for someone you almost know that you will lose very soon or any moment?
Let’s not even go into the topic of unbelievers, even with Christian dating each other we all have the potential of falling and crushing to the ground so what more dating an unbeliever? The past one week has almost been one of my toughest week, I shared with my Pastor that the revelations of certain things in my life on Friday morning will change my approach, life and the way I view things for a very long time. I crushed my spirit and hurt my inner being to know that someone so many people trusted used their influence over other people’s life to inflict wounds that might never be healed if they never seek God’s grace and help. For too long, I have been holding on and waiting for a change of my view towards a certain being, but the thoughts and sharing that fateful Friday morning caused my spirit to cry out loud!
So if you ask me today what do we do with the relationships that already exist with an unbeliever? Well to me it’s simple the word of God says you should have been in it anyway? It means BREAKUP! I remembered the Lord leading me to speak into some one’s life some time ago last year at a camp, and the call was clear, turn your eyes on Jesus or you will lose even your faith and true enough my dear brother is almost at the verge of it.. my theory is simple and here it goes- ever heard of your parents saying why are you always in school and never at home? Or why are you always with that friend and not helping your brother or sister out with some school work? Or maybe is your church more important than your family?
Well it just goes to prove that our human nature can only do so much, we can’t be everywhere all the time and so we evaluate each and every relationship during every season and choose which one to spend more time with. I would like to think the same, they day you make God a number 2 in your life is the day where you will choose the plans the devil and enemy has for you. The bible even says, if you want to follow Jesus, you ought to “Hate” your father and mother, but the other part of the word of God says love them and honor them with all your heart so how can God contradict His own word? Well the only explanation is this we need to love God so much that our love for our parents looks like as though we hate them. Let me explain this theory! I know having seen the word hate your parents itself sounds crazy to you but let me explain. A lot of our leaders and teens in church enjoy and sometimes have so much to do in church and ministry that they spend more time in church then they do at home, 5 out of 7 days they could be in church or doing ministry related stuff, so we end up having upset parents and grandmas, scolding and screaming at our leaders accusing them of not loving them anymore! But guess what, these are the very same leaders who will try to bring their parents to the “best” food in town, or try to steal pockets of time to show that they really do love their parents. Can it be that even though they love their parents very much, however their love for God’s house and ministry is greater?
I grew up having been thought that activities don’t define our faith and our love for God, but then again can I ask how do you serve God. Isn’t He up there there in heaven? Does he need our offerings or fruits in the altar? Or even prayer? What can we do actually really serve Him? What can we really do to say and show our love for God? Seriously if you can teach me away that doesn’t require my time and money I will follow after you! But if making God my only first love and giving Him all my time and money is the way maybe then I don’t think I have made any wrong decisions.
Loving God = Serving His most loved = Loving people= giving of your money, time and energy
My conclusion is this, if I have one life and only this much of me that is left to live, I must live it for Jesus =)
